Now its something I’ve spent a bit of time trying to come to the answer of and simply there are many reasons why. For some of the women its a case of a way out of poverty and others have found that local guys cheat too much.
Are the women genuine to be honest I think there are a low amount who aren’t. The majority of women are looking for marriage for life and are willing to bring everything they have to the table to be a great wife. There are complications with families and best thing to do is deal with everything before problems can arise. Finding out what your wife is going to do to help her family will be a good thing to discuss before things get complicated and the wedding becomes a nightmare. Because in most cases things can be resolved. I haven’t met a woman though who isn’t genuine about marriage. They want the marriage, the kids, the house, the car and to be a good wife. I encourage independence in my wife because I love her and the fact is independence also allows her to have her own goals in life. So the guys that think its good to have a wife locked up at home while your at work should firstly look at what makes your wife happy and let her study or progress in life. Some of you may think I’m crazy in that thinking as my wife could leave me for another guy.. but I answer it very simply in the fact my wife is not a bird in a cage, she is my equal. I will help her progress with her life and happiness. Most marriage break ups are down to control and money. I trust my wife and I work hard to create stable finances for our future. In Asian culture women prefer strong men. Not because they want to be dominated but as a head of a household you are to lead the family to its future.
Do they marry for love? I’m not sure to be honest as there is a mix of being chosen as a wife aswell as being thankful. The best answer came from a friend of mine who was talking about his partner which basically said he knows that she isn’t with him because she loves him but in time he hopes she will. I think that pretty much sums it up.
Did my wife marry me for my money? Honestly the answer is no. Infact we were both in relationships for about 6 months before we even looked at becoming an item and me flying out to Cebu. What did we talk about? Well we both had problems in our relationships and had become close as friends so often talked about things most people would find boring such as the weather and what we were doing at that exact moment. I think it was a mix of curiosity aswell as interest because of our cultural differences aswell as the fact we pretty much hit it off from the first moment we met. There was a change in our lives that made a difference we both had something happen that made our thoughts change and a realisation that it wasn’t just friendship we had for each other.
If your 50+ and thinking is it ok to marry a young girl in her 20s personally I think early 20s is a bit young and someone around 30 at least would be a better match but we are all individuals and all have different preferences and thoughts. The main thing is if you decide to have a Filipina partner is that you treat her right.