The thing with the Philippines it offers changes that in the West you wouldn’t even see or the changes that can happen at least not as you grow older. I remember a long time ago with my ex when I bought her a pager then a year later a mobile phone to say it wasn’t life changing for her would be an understatement the first reason was down to the fact she had never received such an expensive gift before but then also these were technologies that weren’t available to the average person back then. As time moved on though you see the value of money becomes less and the expectations more this is the poison that leaks through western society. People buying kids the latest iPad or other gift purely on the basis of how they will look compared to the other kids in school yet the teachers I know do the opposite everything the kids value are in the time spent and the places they go not in some easily forgotten gadget.
The Philippines for me offered up a life that my wife gave to me that I was missing in the UK. My next toy on the list at the time we met was a Porsche boxster which for many seems a pipe dream but for me I could buy cash within 6 months. It wasn’t down to ego but simply it was the fact I could reach out and take it money was no object at the same time most things had become that way. The reality in my life was my daughter Nicole and April who was now entering my life as simply everything else could be bought.
Bought everything? lets put it this way how many of my real friends kept in touch when I moved to the Philippines? how many friends cared more than what I could deliver for them? guess what virtually none.. people generally used me or felt threatened by me at the same time I am easy going in my free time and 110% business in work time. I don’t cut slack in working hours and I worked harder and longer than everyone to achieve what I had gained but for what? most of the time my superiors upped my money as I took over their job roles which left them free to do nothing at the same time I enjoyed the added work. Friends today are such a short list I can’t count many except for those that have either understood or felt travel the people I expected to sit alongside me throughout life as well as support have all fallen by the wayside either uncomfortable by what I have achieved or they never were a close friend to start with. Which gets back to the value of money in life as friendship is bought by money but often worth nothing those who are real friends would be insulted for assuming you could buy them. Those friends in my life are mainly all gone mind and not because I am awkward but simply I was brought up travelling the world and then my work involved travelling the UK so most of my bonds don’t exist anymore simply because everyone lost touch for various reasons.
Now I am not sitting here all alone sad and glum by the way just be nice to see how many people got on with their lives. I compete with people with most things in life but its about building a better life rather than a direct competition which is what people forget. I remember the days were I would spend around £2000 on a night out with friends it wasn’t about the money or being better than others but the fact I wanted people to have a good time but I know a lot of people assumed its about trying to be better than others.. but if that was the case why would I have even bothered for anything else than your friendship?
Money means little in life.. and its value to me is very little in comparison to friendship of good friends and the love of my family.