The forgotten Filipina’s (the over 30s!)

I know Matt has talked about the women in their 30s but nobody seems to really discuss what is happening so I thought I would get Matt to post this.

I am a female in my mid thirties my husband wasn’t a good one with gambling and drinking habits which started to eat through my money as well as his. The thing is I have several properties I rent as well as my own job, I am not the teenager type that most foreigners seem to be looking for. I have always worked and even during my school times and college I used to sell food I made at home in class to make some extra money and having a good work ethic I have stood on my own two feet for a long time. I separated from my husband after 2 years of marriage as I could not only see he was destroying himself but pulling me down with him aswell.

Now after over a decade of meeting new people and looking for a good partner I bumped into Matt online. I don’t want a Filipino in my life as they are just bad news and I am getting too old to keep rebuilding my life every time they do something stupid. I find the ones I have met have let me down and always would let me down, there may good Pinoy’s out there but they seem to be really hard to find and simply I don’t have the time to waste. I have also met a few foreigners online but they are toying around just as much with no real commitment and never seem to come to the Philippines but always seem to be making excuses on why they can’t make it this year. I am not looking for some super fit guy with a brain like Einstein at the same time I am not looking for a womanising drunk or a guy who can’t take care of himself. I have managed to get through my life by hard work and commitment and I think I deserve a man with the same commitment to life and not going to sit around restaurants all day with a San Mig in hand doing nothing living off their pension. Retired or not I would like to meet a guy with life in them and its something that I was talking to Matt about in my frustrations with meeting the right guy as there seems to be virtually none out there. Which I know someone mentioned before that the only girls available to foreigners coming to the Philippines are from slums which I think is unfair and untrue. I think the truth is most of the foreigners coming though aren’t of very high quality and also would see people like myself as a challenge and so cop out for a teenage  girl. But I would say to any guys out there though looking for a partner that if they wonder why so many relationships fail remember most guys are finding girls not women and the men arriving would spend their time better walking with open eyes instead of seeing a candy feast as most of the girls your finding are seeing a walking ATM not love or commitment which someone like myself can really offer as I understand being on my own, I understand the value of people and how to enjoy life and more importantly you will never need to support me.

The reason I decided to write this is because we are being forgotten unfairly. The Philippines is male dominated and although we are independant women I do think we have a right to be happy and find a good companion in our lives too instead of thrown to one side. For those men out there who have never been to the Philippines and looking for someone of value in their life remember us, we are a bit older but also wiser at the same time we have worked our way through life and understand what is important in happiness. So if your looking to settle down and in your 30s+ remember us.

6 comments for “The forgotten Filipina’s (the over 30s!)

  1. Matthew Cons
    April 7, 2011 at 1:16 am

    Very well written and a nice refreshing read.

    • Tropicalpenpals
      April 7, 2011 at 2:31 am

      its been a bit of a pain lately with spam mainly from companies in Florida which seem to be paying people to manually write rather than automated spam. Problem this causes is I have had to manually deal with the comment system unless I start blocking IP addresses which I don’t want to do as it can end up blocking the wrong people.

      So if the replies dont appear straight away its down to queuing but they are still here ‘-)

  2. Matthew Cons
    April 7, 2011 at 1:36 am

    Not sure if first post got through so will re-type:

    Nicely written post, refreshing to read.

  3. euro-aussie
    July 14, 2011 at 12:26 pm

    hi there 30ish lady ! you sound interesting lady to know you better. drop a line ym tibor2u

    im 46/M/australia

  4. Che
    September 5, 2011 at 7:16 pm

    I agree with you Ate. You showed to the world that we are not what these foreigners think. I have a foreigner fiance’ but it seems he is not committed on our relationship. I am scared. I have just this feeling that he is still searching other women in private or what we called cheating online. But, when we talk, he is really so sincere and I really feel that he loves me. However, I have just read his comments somewhere to other woman or maybe found his name on a dating website. Could you help me? Could you send any links or article I could read to help me in my decision making? Should I push this through? or rather call off the wedding? Salamat Ate… 🙂

    • Profile photo of OLDARTICLES
      September 6, 2011 at 5:49 am

      Sounds like you have some serious doubts already especially if finding his name and comments. Was there anything said that would make you think he was looking for someone else? Reason I ask is often I get approached by people all the time some are just after friendship others are looking for relationships. Either way I am only available for friendship and I set that boundary. If they try to offer more after I said no then they simply get deleted. Question is how much have you found and how much do you trust your partner?