I came across Matt’s site in 2008 and have watched things develop with him and his family and to be honest you won’t find me elsewhere on the internet as I am one of those who dropped off completely. Not because of Matt’s site but the ones Matt refers to as selling this bull retire and live like a king in the Philippines and I will tell you the reason why.
I came to the Philippines a lot earlier than Matt did and to be honest if I had come across Matt’s site before I am sure knowing him and TropicalPenpals.com there would have been a higher chance of happiness here. Not that he has some miracle pill but at least he tells the bloody truth. Back even before I arrived I started contacting people online about advice for the Philippines and I was dating a girl online who I was coming to meet. Everything seemed to be completely negative with many people but I also quickly realised many had been here and left but nobody seemed to give any reasons why. I got lost in the how to court a Filipina bull and spent most of my time trying to treat my woman with respect when I arrived and didn’t take any notice of things going on around me. Within a few weeks the wedding process was in play and we bought a house together in a quiet sub-division.
All seemed great at the time until the wedding stopped rather suddenly and a confession arrived from what was my fiancee on how she was already married and had several children but didn’t love her husband anymore. I had signed over P3m on our house and the chances of recovery were slim. I was now retired and ploughed my last bit of cash into my last bit of happiness to find I was a complete idiot. It quickly come apparent how bad things were when I said it was all over and also that the house needs to be sold and that I couldn’t believe she had done this. A confession soon after was the icing on the cake to find out she had a boyfriend who had talked her into getting a boyfriend on the internet for money and it had gotten out of control because she fell in love with me.
To cut a long story short I was now out of home, out of pocket and out of my retirement living like a king in the Philippines because my savings were wiped out on some cheap manipulating scrubber. But beyond the money it had ripped my heart out thinking of the people back home waving me off to a happier life to see me made the biggest fool they will ever see. The Philippines isn’t a paradise for the nieve or the stupid. As the years have gone on (Yes I am still here!) I rebuilt my life as I did have a small pension and currently have a small resort, family and even a dog. At the same time I was burned heavily within months yet I have heard of people having it done a lot worse as they let things build up for even years before having the rug pulled out from under them. Behind the fake smiles there is a cash register working looking at the big white ATM stood in front of them. Before Matt corrects me though I will say not all as the wife I have now I have already been married to many years and a few things come up along our way that could have seen us destitute and broke but she stuck with me.
But for those guys out there who think they can make it here because they can’t make it in their own country save yourself a ticket don’t come and its not because of you but the sickness some people have in seeing your trust and being nice as a weakness just waiting to devour you and rip your soul straight from your heart and body leaving you hating everything that you loved when you came here. Come on a holiday, go diving, meet a few girls but your better off at home not here long term.