A lot of people look at it as a slave trade. A false marriage. But its often as far from reality than people realise. Most women ive come across are looking for a foreign husband due to seeing a life change in friends or family they know. Aswell as the fact many have had problems with ex partners who either disappear after children are born or have multiple sexual partners. There is a pedestal foreign men are put on. Firstly they are wealthy and to be honest if you have an income of over £12,000 a year your almost a millionaire if not already in most of the asian countries. There is a belief that foreign men are loyal and more likely to take care of family. Aswell as the fact if your an asian woman with children you are no longer desirable to an asian man. You may think i dont know what im talking about but if you take a look at China and India who have a high death rate in female children for different reasons ( http://www.gendercide.org/case_infanticide.html ) a female has little status in a lot of asian societies. But the truth is a western man is more likely to treat the woman as an equal, listen and share ideas and situations rather than dominate and control.
So who in theyre right mind wouldnt want to leave that society? Often foreign men dont only take on a partner but help the family progress and often pull many members out of the poverty trap. Is it a false marriage? To be honest i dont think so in most cases because the women i know really do love theyre husbands they are “thankful” for the life that has been injected by having a man in theyre life that really can change theyre world. But they are also in it for life. A life partner not a ATM and rob blind..
It doesnt mean its all so lucky… I know of many stories of men in theyre later part of life being killed by girlfriends/wifes or robbed of everything they own. But I havent heard as many stories of people within theyre own age groups having the same problem. Life is for enjoying and sharing.. getting the balance right is more important than anything. If a story is reported in the press regarding a filipino – expat marriage the expat will always be the villan and from the expat community the female will always be the guilty. My advice to anyone is get to know the partner dont walk in with an open cheque book but open arms. Learn,understand and understand this is for life not for the moment. I have met many filipinos and some i dont trust but the majority i do within theyre own circles.