Looking back on our marriage

DSCF0164I’m sat here in the UK and with a few recent headaches with the financial crisis and missing home you start to look into why you do these things to get through. Financially I would be a lot richer by staying in the UK as career wise there is a shortage in my expertise which could push me to the top of my game. But I realised when things became serious with my now wife April that sacrifices would  have to be made to get things to happen. The Philippines has a lot going for it but financial riches is not one of its appeals. Do well you put your family at risk do badly and you struggle to put food on the table. A mix of overseas work and local small ventures are the future of our family but it does make me realise why some people do give up.

  For us though I have a wife that means everything to me and I’m a lot more stubborn than any mule could ever be. Success is not a pipe dream but a forced reality. The difference is adjusting from earning upto P12 million a year to a conservative P2 million. But the other thing is its not only been the happiest time of my life since I met April its also been some of the most rewarding. In our time together my whole way of life changed but so has the priorities. A Porsche and a city apartment with a stressful career became an old multicab,a lot to build our home and a family. The truth being swapping a material world for what really matters family..

We do have our bad days like everyone else I admit but we have never argued and never will. Our life revolves round the happiness of our family unit. As we call what we have as simply US. Because until we found each other we had gaps in our lives we couldn’t fill and now they are we can honestly say we love everything about US and looking forward to working through the hard times together and enjoying the good. The main thing is being together through it all.

The being away from my wife I find the hardest. I can deal with impossible deadlines, long hours, stress and trying to create new ideas out of nowhere.. but its worth nothing if you have no one to share your life with. I have been lucky and I can see people looking back on this blog in years to come just emailing to see if we are still happily married. The truth of the matter is I wasn’t getting married it wasn’t something I was going to do in my lifetime. Why? Because I never found someone before I could honestly say I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. My wife April knows the importance of marriage and we have filled that void in both our lives aswell as agreeing there is no divorce. Its simply not an option we will ever look at which I think if more people treated life that way there would be less marriages happening but marriages should last the life time of the people involved.again ssshhh

We have been together in some form for most of 2007 up until today. In that time there have been  things happen that would make a good book. But the most important thing I can say is happy memories and lots of them. I have a great wife who has given us a wonderful daughter all I can say is I wish anyone reading this the same happiness in life.

2 comments for “Looking back on our marriage

  1. Tropicalpenpals
    July 18, 2009 at 5:14 pm

    Thanks Leo.. yes we are very happy..and can only see us staying that way.. 🙂

  2. TropicalPenpals
    July 18, 2009 at 5:14 pm

    Thanks Leo.. yes we are very happy..and can only see us staying that way.. 🙂