This is probably where I separate from a lot of the Expats who are here not only from the beginning of the relationship with my wife but also the fact I had no intentions of coming to the Philippines at all.
What happened was a friend of mine finds it a bit difficult to meet with the ladies in the UK and had joined a dating site I was at his house on a Saturday having a few beers with him when he mentioned the fact he had joined the site and hadn’t had any interest. Me being the curious me told him to let me see his profile and I began rewriting it from scratch as it wasn’t written in a way that encouraged people to contact you. Many people have the problem if they were asked “what are your best traits?” for example would give many things except for their best traits out of shyness or not even knowing them. So anyway power of the keyboard I began tapping away to try and get him some luck with at least a chat mate online. As I was typing the websites photos changed around the page and one of the photos that appeared is the one on the top left here. At that time in the UK I was enjoying being single in a well paid job and happy with life in general. I had come out of a relationship of 11 years and wasn’t in any rush to get into another one at the same time I emailed April which was another funny thing as I sent her an email as my friend but explaining I was using his account as I wasn’t on the site but wanted to know more about her. In replying April got an email from the website threatening to ban her for misuse of the site even though it was my doing.. anyway long story short April got my yahoo account in that message and a few days later added me to her yahoo. At that time I was at the same guys house and we hit it off from there primarily as friends and at that time April had also split on a relationship so neither of us were really looking for anything more than a chat mate as we could discuss the completely different lives we had as well as generally just enjoyed each others company. After 9 months of being friends I eventually headed off to the Philippines to meet as a couple of things had happened along the way in that time which actually changed how we felt about each other as simply we lived together for 9 months already from the moment we made contact as I would wait for April to go to work and be online to chat and throughout the day we phoned and texted each other just so we could spend time together. In essence we were living the long-distance relationship without actually establishing any physical contact. Arriving in the Philippines I still today remember seeing Aprils smile through the crowd and it was at that point I knew this was my wife the same as April felt as well. Sounds a bit odd but cameras aren’t too kind on me and if you imagine my weight had dropped from a 42” waist down to 34” as well as doing several hours a day in the gym I was a much leaner guy when I arrived than I am even today. Which for April was a bit of icing on the cake as she expected me to look older and fatter which I can’t really complain about as she loved me as I wasn’t and even more so for who I was..
Anyway that’s how we met and have been in contact constantly regardless of where we are in the world 24/7 for over 4 years now. Others may find it being paranoid about what the other is upto but the odd thing is we clicked as most of the things we like WE like so always have something to talk about when I know most other people would get bored if doing the same.