Its something from the female side nobody really discusses and I am not sure why as you will find what seems to be any available woman or girl searching for a foreigner online on the various dating sites. The odd thing is that the Philippines is anti mail order bride yet all that seems to have happened is the organisers that used to do tours where foreigners would arrive and meet a group of women to choose from or via video dating and letters etc has moved to the internet. There is no need for a middle man as the dating sites have replaced that yet in theory aren’t the dating sites illegal but who do you prosecute? Also should they be prosecuted as its obvious a supply and demand issue that people will find a way.
Anyway sitting here in my internet cafe and after meeting many many women over the last three years the big question 90% of them ask is “Matt can you find me a nice foreigner?” in answer to that question its like above I am not a dating service or introduction service. At the same time how do you help people without breaking the law? You spend time in the internet cafe you see the dregs of society the girls are meeting online and most are just perverse looking to pound the sausage while watching girls online. The conversations are often sexual and often the guys expose themselves on the webcam at the same time requesting the girls to do the same in the internet cafe. It doesn’t happen here mind! its not that type of cafe with private booths its very open plan to stop it happening. But if most dating sites are like that and guys tell me how they got scammed off dating sites it does appear the people that are actually looking for each have more difficulty finding each other than people assume. People think Asia or Russia they think mail order bride like its a lick of a stamp and a transfer of money and you have met the girl of your dreams. In reality I have met several guys who are still looking after a few years and bad experiences. In all honesty the best way of meeting people is the old fashioned way of asking friends and family who know people married to foreigners already as they will no doubt know other people looking to settle down. I know this does work as I have seen it work myself not only by people I know but also people I have come across on the internet.
The reason meeting via people already established in marriage is they know both of you and can hopefully see if you are compatible. A lot of the internet marriages end in disaster due to people meeting without knowing each other the girl smiles thinking this guy has a big wallet and the guy smiles thinking this woman is beautiful how lucky i am, long term its a bit like Russian roulette you don’t know when the guns going to go off but a very good chance its already primed on the trigger.