I hear so often about how bad guys have life in the Philippines or when they take their partner abroad that all things change. But I often wonder is it really the girls fault? I have seen women change when the constant flow of cash buys into the “foreigners are rich” and the guy just lets the girl use and abuse at the same time is it the girls fault as often they don’t realise where the money is coming from and often aren’t used to dealing with financial planning or even financial restraint and control. Top that with a lot of the guys enjoying the Bikini bar scene then complaining their partner rips them off or isn’t happy. I know the first thing many of the guys will say is “this is the Philippines” which is an excuse. Would you take a prostitute to meet your relatives and say by the way this is a girl I picked up in a bar and I pay her for sex ? I doubt it. The same can be said for picking girls up in Bikini bars, I can think of many situations where guys have ended up in the bars because of friends being single or that way inclined but at the same time doesn’t mean you have to enjoy the pleasures of such places. Especially if you know your partner doesn’t appreciate it.
Also there is the issue where a lot of the guys marry/meet girls from lower class backgrounds who are also a lot younger which may not seem a problem short term but the education and age gap will appear over time especially if she already had an existing boyfriend before you met. The “what if” sneaks in above all the jewellery and fake Prada and wanting your wealth as well as the guy half your age. Also moving back to your home country creates even bigger issues which are magnified with the mixed marriage and age gap.
So what is my answer? Well to meeting the right girl or one that is more likely to be responsible and take care of you.. The first thing I would say is are you responsible and likely to take good care of the woman. As at the end of the day its a partnership going in any less than 100% will always create problems and at some point an ending to something that could otherwise work out. I was recently having dinner with my wife and some of her classmates who were discussing finding good guys. Funny thing is they are well educated, have their own incomes and are generally the bread winner in their family (parents and siblings). But at the same time they don’t want just a guy that is unable to meet basic needs like being sober in the morning. They want a life, they have had a grim reality check here where life feels unfair to them as they have worked hard, supported family. Looked for the right Filipino guy to find out the guy has cheated on them and in some cases fiddled them out of a planned future including already buying a house. These are woman who are responsible and know what they expect in life and at the same time can offer a great future for their future partner. Problem is they just struggle to find the right guy online which is why they were asking how do they meet good guys? As they often come across the “show your breasts” or some other perverts online or in some cases the sites they look for guys prohibit Filipino’s because the reputation of scamming is so high.
The weights are stacked against them yet at the same time I hear friends in the UK saying the same thing they can’t meet the right woman. Although you are probably thinking these guys should get on a flight. Most of them won’t come to the Philippines as they read about the kidnappings and beheadings as well as previous bombings in Manila they see the Philippines more inline with Iraq than tropical islands of pleasant happy people and the opportunity to meet the women of their dreams. Funny thing is I know if both groups of people met they would both be very happy. The guys in the UK have been butchered with divorces and child maintenance. They know what they want out of life and the same goes for the Filipina’s the hard part is they will probably never meet. The reality of things are that there is no shortage of real women here just real men.