Being apart from my wife

First week of waiting has gone and although there is work in the pipeline things are still in limbo. I always have a big problem at these times because I wonder why I came back to the UK but hopefully everything is only a short step from clicking into place and a lot of developments will all happen at once. I have given a window of 4 to 6 months may sound a long time to most people and to be honest it is a long time to be away from home. But short trips dont give good results due to the costs of setting up aswell as travel costs. The secret to how things are going for us is very simple we progress everytime i head back home. This trip is the house trip the trip before this one paid for a lot of land the medical expenses of Zoei and the start of one of our businesses. Im 35 and will be retired well before im 40 well i say retired but its more a change of pace and way of life aswell as doing things i enjoy. Recently I was approached for a tv interview but im not currently in the Philippines which has put a damper on things although its the second time ive been asked. Ideally I would like 6 or 7 business ventures in the Philippines which will all be small scale but all profitable aswell as try to get more involved with tourism in Cebu and see if I can help develop the industry to encourage more visitors. But it all takes time and im on the first few treads of a very big ladder. The one thing I can say is when times are hard I never hear my wife April complain infact its normally just a tally of what we have and need and we always seem to work round the problems. One thing I can say though is month by month we become more financially stable currently we can survive but now is the time to push forward to the next level and move to secure and stable. Although it never gets easy being apart I try to concentrate on what we are doing and our plans rather than think too much on the distance as we both just begin to miss each other more. But for those of you who think you cant afford to retire or move to Asia I would seriously look at it during the recession because with a bit of thought and a surprisingly small business you can exist.. but with a pension aswell your setup for life. But what if you dont have a pension? this is why I do what I do hop in and out of the UK. The thing is not to be fussy on a lot of the work main thing is to get in and get out. Drop into work keep your costs down and take as much of your money as possible out to the Philippines. Unpatriotic? I take it from the point of view there is only being patriotic and British when it suits politicians. Im proud to be Scottish but not British when you have every politician robbing the vaults on expenses, second homes and anything else they get involved in why would I be bothered with the UK? I already pay heavy taxes on my income and I have interest on paying tax on my savings or investments at such high rates on an inbalanced country that robs the workers to pay for people who bleed the system. You may have noticed that ive got very political lately its pretty much due to the fact of returning to the UK and finding it on its last legs and a big smiling idiot on youtube telling the people that the latest scandal will be investigated. What a joke.. Is there any way to force an election we all know they are going out and we are in a recession thats going to take around 3 years to dig out from. If i can get this run done and dusted I can head off happily to the Philippines and back to my family without having to worry about the next few years and possibly look at the ventures I discussed earlier. But the price and rewards can be great.. the time apart its like a constant feeling of being empty, a part of me is missing.. hollow. But the gains afterwards create the foundations of a new future.

20 comments for “Being apart from my wife

  1. John Hall
    May 9, 2009 at 12:34 am

    Matt. I wish you the best in the UK. Work hard and do your best and I hope everything works out for you. I am happy for you if you get that house you wanted and good luck and godspeed on your endevors.

  2. John Hall
    May 9, 2009 at 12:34 am

    Matt. I wish you the best in the UK. Work hard and do your best and I hope everything works out for you. I am happy for you if you get that house you wanted and good luck and godspeed on your endevors.

  3. Tropicalpenpals
    May 9, 2009 at 8:05 am

    Thanks John,
    Im hoping all goes well its a bit slower than I had hoped though unfortunately..

  4. Matt Wilkie
    May 9, 2009 at 8:05 am

    Thanks John,
    Im hoping all goes well its a bit slower than I had hoped though unfortunately..

  5. Tom
    May 9, 2009 at 11:12 pm

    I know exactly how you feel. Corently I can only return once a year and for just a few weeks. Seperation can be very hard on any relationship. Cloe also understands it is for our benefit for us to do this but it is not easy. Once you are where you need to be then it will be much better for you all. Good Luck. I’ll be back in September and October. Hope to see you on one of these trips.

  6. Tom
    May 9, 2009 at 11:12 pm

    I know exactly how you feel. Corently I can only return once a year and for just a few weeks. Seperation can be very hard on any relationship. Cloe also understands it is for our benefit for us to do this but it is not easy. Once you are where you need to be then it will be much better for you all. Good Luck. I’ll be back in September and October. Hope to see you on one of these trips.

  7. Tropicalpenpals
    May 10, 2009 at 9:06 am

    My biggest frustration is waiting.. ive been in the UK nearly two weeks and work is still in limbo. Once it starts rolling i can start moving my families life forward. Good to hear from you Tom. I think your going to be in Cebu just before I head back.. sooner or later we are both going to be there full time hope it isnt too long for both of us 🙂

  8. Matt Wilkie
    May 10, 2009 at 9:06 am

    My biggest frustration is waiting.. ive been in the UK nearly two weeks and work is still in limbo. Once it starts rolling i can start moving my families life forward. Good to hear from you Tom. I think your going to be in Cebu just before I head back.. sooner or later we are both going to be there full time hope it isnt too long for both of us 🙂

  9. Tom
    May 11, 2009 at 3:30 am

    Yes you changed everything around and confused me. 🙂 I had trouble posting comments but looks like I have it figured out now.

  10. Tom
    May 11, 2009 at 3:30 am

    Yes you changed everything around and confused me. 🙂 I had trouble posting comments but looks like I have it figured out now.

  11. Tropicalpenpals
    May 11, 2009 at 9:03 am

    Im one for progress..lol hopefully its all for the better

  12. Matt Wilkie
    May 11, 2009 at 9:03 am

    Im one for progress..lol hopefully its all for the better

  13. Guest
    May 11, 2009 at 6:10 pm

    We always hope that. Sometimes we are right. 🙂

    Hey you need to turn on the little smiley face thinge (Don’t you love those technical terms)

    Separation is always difficult just keep your eye on the target and you’ll get through it.

  14. Guest
    May 11, 2009 at 6:10 pm

    We always hope that. Sometimes we are right. 🙂

    Hey you need to turn on the little smiley face thinge (Don’t you love those technical terms)

    Separation is always difficult just keep your eye on the target and you’ll get through it.

  15. Tropicalpenpals
    May 12, 2009 at 9:56 am

    Once i work out how to switch the smilies on i will do..lol dont find this js.kit user friendly..

    Seperation is a nightmare but it is the only way to make a future for us and our children. If there was another way to do it I would. I spent the months in Cebu looking for ideas and I have a few in the pipeline although im taking caution over risks at the moment as the house is No.1 for this year and next year hopefully we can look at other projects.Although I think my trip to the UK will remain annually as my daughter Nicole lives there and my ex wont let her travel to me. Another 8 years and she can make her own mind up lol

  16. Matt Wilkie
    May 12, 2009 at 9:56 am

    Once i work out how to switch the smilies on i will do..lol dont find this js.kit user friendly..

    Seperation is a nightmare but it is the only way to make a future for us and our children. If there was another way to do it I would. I spent the months in Cebu looking for ideas and I have a few in the pipeline although im taking caution over risks at the moment as the house is No.1 for this year and next year hopefully we can look at other projects.Although I think my trip to the UK will remain annually as my daughter Nicole lives there and my ex wont let her travel to me. Another 8 years and she can make her own mind up lol

  17. Tropicalpenpals
    May 12, 2009 at 11:01 pm

    Done it 😉 Well hopefully although we miss each other this year (in timing) next year we should be in the same place at the same time and finally meet up. I think this recession isnt helping anyone either.. it definitly hasnt helped the UK government after a major expenses scandal has been uncovered =-O wish I could get to do what they got caught doing haha.. only problem is all the media is covering it and I cant be bothered to watch 24/7 of politicians trying to lie to me on tv.. :-$ anyway enough of that.. look forward to catching up with you sometime mate 😉
     

  18. Matt Wilkie
    May 12, 2009 at 11:01 pm

    Done it 😉 Well hopefully although we miss each other this year (in timing) next year we should be in the same place at the same time and finally meet up. I think this recession isnt helping anyone either.. it definitly hasnt helped the UK government after a major expenses scandal has been uncovered =-O wish I could get to do what they got caught doing haha.. only problem is all the media is covering it and I cant be bothered to watch 24/7 of politicians trying to lie to me on tv.. :-$ anyway enough of that.. look forward to catching up with you sometime mate 😉
     

  19. Tom
    May 14, 2009 at 3:43 am

    Yes me too. 😎  I am hoping very much that in Sept of 2010 I will be there for good. In the meantime we do what we can. I really do know how you feel.

  20. Tom
    May 14, 2009 at 3:43 am

    Yes me too. 😎  I am hoping very much that in Sept of 2010 I will be there for good. In the meantime we do what we can. I really do know how you feel.